“Where are your diamonds?”

She’s my 4 year old goddaughter who I love the bones of. It was only a matter of time before she started asking questions. It’s been over 6 months now and she’s only seen me and not the ex. Of course at the time she was told by Mummy he wouldn't be around anymore as he had “been naughty” and had upset her daddy and auntie Lacey and, as a four year old does, she just got on with it and seemingly forgot about him…

Until…timing perfect as always, just she and I in the car and clearly she’d been looking at my hand whilst I was driving and noticed my engagement/wedding band were not there anymore. I should have been prepared for this one and maybe even compared notes with Mum and Dad in advance so I could make sure I was following their lead but she had cornered me; in the car, 5 minutes into a 2.5 hour car trip, on my own – I was going to have to answer this one.

“I don’t wear them anymore as I am not married now. When you get married you make promises to the person you marry which are very important. Unfortunately uncle ex was not able to keep his promises any more so that means our marriage is now over”

“Oh! that was very naughty you should never break your promises. You should always keep your promises, I always keep my promises… Are you sad?”

“A bit yes. Marriage is supposed to be forever, so it was sad for me when it ended before forever. You don’t need to worry though as I’m not very sad anymore and it’s always ok to talk about it – I will always answer your questions and it will not upset me ok?”

“ok”…(minutes silence)…“Auntie Lacey”

“Yes poppet?”

“I married my rabbit but HE didn’t keep his pinky promise and did not treat me like a princess anymore so now my marriage is over”

“Is that right?”

“Yes, but I’m going to find a new better prince so it will all be ok. You deserve a prince who treats you like a princess - I will find one for you to marry.”

“Well that would be lovely, thank you”

“I’m going to have a marriage like a short movie, just for a day, I think that’s enough don’t you?”

“In some cases, possibly, if it’s a really good movie”

“ok good, that’s sorted then….I would like to go to Disneyland please”

“Oh would you now?” and so ensued a conversation about all things Disney.

No mention of it again, no more questions nothing. Back in the car, two days later, Taylor Swift comes on the radio…

“Oooo like you and Uncle ex!” she exclaimed and proceeded to belt out at the top of her voice “are never ever ever getting back together…” over, and over, and over.

I have to say I could do nothing but laugh. I think she gets it.